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Saturday, February 21, 2009
Reflections: Quality time Yet AGAIN! I spent quality time again! #5 person: Joanie. :D If you are wondering what in the world is this big deal about me spending quality time, it is because it is no mean feat by my past standards. I am breaking through. PTL! Over the past week of spending quality time with 5 friends, I learnt that it only occurs when I am open to share about my own weakness, thoughts and failures. In the past, I do alot of self-censorship when I spend time with friends. Maybe I had good intentions at heart, and that time I believed I was doing right. That's why I tend to self-censor. But deep down, I know it was also because of my lack of courage to share about past incidents that had me done the wrong things and choices. Most of the time, I let the other party do the talking because I thought that that was what my friends wanted. But now thinking back, it's not wrong still...just that as a listening ear, it will also be helpful to "tell" them what they need - what is helpful for them to cope with their situation. My friends may want a listening ear, but more than that we need someone to convince us to work towards solving that problem, not just talking problems after problems. And to do that, we gotta realize that we are only as convincing as our personal experiences...be it past hurts, past failures, past wrong decisions. But as we share our side of the story, there is tremendous power of encouragement and motivation to overcome whatever there is. That's the lesson I've learnt so far. :) But ultimately, I still need time alone.....as an introvert. I get my energy to spend quality time with others by spending enough time with myself first. Haha. :) ..... Joan's heading back Australia this coming Wed....will miss her until she comes back again in December. Labels: contemplative, revelation 4:53 PM
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