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Sunday, May 10, 2009
Respect choices made by others People should be given their right to make their own choices. Something that has happened today simply reinforced this notion that I have kept. What is the point of forcing someone? Where is wisdom in all this? Sorry, I just don't find any wisdom in doing things by force. Because I've been through it. I have been the victim in certain situation, and I have also been the 'compeller' at some point in my past. But neither cause things to work out the way I desired. From then on, I believe that whether the choice made is good or bad, it has got to be respected. No matter how hard you try to control someone in a forceful way, your efforts will be wasted so don't even start trying. Perhaps it would be effective towards young children, who have impressionable minds and are still dependent on adults' guidance. But as we enter into late teen and adulthood, we cannot command people to go left and right any longer. Although it is human nature to want to control fate, people & things because we hate changes, we have got to snap out of it. Change is the only constant! This is a wise quotation worth meditating upon. If we truly love, then we should respect. This includes respecting the space to make mistakes, and learning through wrong choices made. Admonish only if there's a necessity. But even then, admonish only if: 1) The person actually listens to you. Otherwise you waste your saliva. 2) The person is really too overboard in something, and if you are his/her superior or leader, you have the responsibility. #2 is more of an issue of fulfilling your responsibility towards the nature of your position, and in the context of church, obedience towards God. #1 is what most of us should do quite common-sensically. ..... Having said that, I don't mean we should all go ahead making our own choices without caring about other people's opinions. That is pure egotistical and stupid. Only stupid people will not think of listening to other people's advice. Of course, it depends on WHOSE advice, WHAT the advice is about and WHEN the advice is given. So I hope everyone will consider the prestige of being labelled as "smart" like Solomon, not stupid like dogs that return to eat their own vomit or pigs that don't even recognize the value of pearls when the pearls are in front of them. Be in Solomon's league. Because making a choice is not an easy task, people's choices must therefore be respected. But more often than not, we find people making rash decisions. Even then, choices should be respected simply because people have the right to make mistakes. Wisdom is universal. In all things, seek wisdom first. Labels: contemplative 10:44 PM
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