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Wednesday, April 28, 2010
Disliking shallowness I have very low threshold for shallowness. But before I give the impression that I'm saying this coz I'm trying to be arrogant, no I am absolutely not. To be more specific, I have low threshold for people who simply maintains at that shallow level. Friendships. And yes, music and dramas that are shallow in idea too FYI. When I see there is no intention of the other party to want to develop their friendship with me further, but yet their gestures and actions during interaction time suggests they really like to know me more but actually after some time, you realize they don't. Coz they simply don't make time. They don't sacrifice. It irks me. It's a bit similar to how guys get wrong signals from girls, but actually it's the girl who makes misleading actions towards the guy. Who says it only applies to BGRs? Friendships too! I always believe that when there's a will, there's a way. We are all busy people but we can always make time. We have different priorities. But when a particular friend gives off the signal during interaction time that he/she really enjoy my friendship, leading me to think we have a common priority/goal, which is to develop this friendship a step further, I am most often willing to make sacrifices in the midst of my business and give some time to my friend. Yes! But sometimes, the other party just doesn't reciprocate. Worst is, you only realize he/she doesn't have the intention to reciprocate AFTER you have sacrificed time for that person whom you thought you could call a good friend. So very unfortunately, my sacrifice in that situation has simply became a waste of my time. I hate shallow friendships. But that doesn't mean I am not aware that friendships ALWAYS begin from a superficial level. I know that. But how long is it going to STAY SUPERFICIAL??? That's the question. Just like I dislike getting hooked for the sake of getting hooked in a relationship, I dislike getting myself to know a person as a 'friend' just to expand the number of friends I have on Facebook or Twitter. As much as possible, I want to devote myself to every friendship I strike. But first, 3 conditions: 1) If I am not confident that I can devote time and energy to a friendship with a particular person, I will not give them false hopes by sending misleading signals. 2) I open up according to the level of friendship with that person. You can't expect me to dig out my heart and lungs and give it to someone when I'm not prepared to. 3) That friend must be someone who is willing to take my honesty - sometimes brutal - towards them. But honestly, I haven't been brutally honest to a friend for a long, long time. I've been honest yes, always have...making sure I'm honest in a tactful way. Haha. Which is the way to go! Just that to find a close friend who can take your brutality in being truthful. That is a real blessing. Ain't it so? =) And I definitely can't take shallowness in movies, dramas and music. Certainly. Labels: contemplative 4:00 PM
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