Friendship 101 (part 3)

In a loving friendship: How to love WISELY

We need to learn how to love wisely. When we love a friend, it doesn't mean we allow people to trample over us, exploit our friendship, and manipulate us like fools. We need to guard against those who are insincere, out to deceive and destroy. We need to protect ourselves from hurting and getting bitter, because these emotions are deep setting and can grow into something horrible in the long term. If that happens, we cannot love properly, as I've mentioned in part 2.

A balance must be made. Don't build a wall in you; instead, build a gate (or a filter). A wall is permanently blocking off all goodwill and badwill. It is also opaque...you are unable to 'see', or simpler terms, to discern. Because to you everything is simply, "I don't care, just don't hurt me can already".

If you build a gate/filter instead of a wall, you can open your heart at the right time to the right friendships. You can also close up and protect yourself when you know an enemy is in the disguise of a friend.

Love wisely. Be smart in your EQ as much as your IQ. Be sensitive to people's intentions not just through words alone, but through their moral principles, body language & facial expressions. To be able to do this, based on my experience, is to o-b-s-e-r-v-e hahaha.

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